At first I was put off by the kids having to do so much, including things no kid should have to do for their mother. In the end, though, I just couldn't dislike Milla.
She knew she had to change and she did. That's what we want someone to do when they're screwing up. Yes, there may be consequences, but those consequences can't get better until the behavior changes. It's a good start, and it gives the family a fighting chance to live normally. As much love as I saw there, I think that they may be OK, assuming Milla keeps moving forward.
The kids were always loving on and smiling with the parents, they were all always saying "I love you", and all of them were genuinely affectionate and caring as a family. It made me smile thinking that those kids feel loved and have so much love to give, despite their bad start in life, and despite being caregivers to a deathly obese mom. That says a lot about Milla and her husband.
I'm not saying they get a free pass or that it's OK, but maybe she was too ashamed to look outside of the household for help.
No, kids shouldn't have to clean Mom's squanch, even when they don't mind (but still don't particularly want to do it). And though they had every right to be resentful, they weren't. That tells me a great deal, and it shows that Milla and her husband did something right.
Again, the kids deserve better, but at least the dysfunction is changing now rather then when it may be too late. I'm just glad the last memory those kids have of mom isn't one of performing her personal hygiene.
Yes, there were gatherings in Mom's room, but I saw an awful lot of interactions and togetherness, quite different from Dreadful Penny and her ways.
As far as who is paying for it : I don't know their situation prior to the disabilities, but I imagine that at least at one time they had resources other than state money. Maybe they saved, maybe not, but I'm sure they paid in along the way.
They had a nice comfy home, tidy yet modest. Their cars weren't luxury and their furniture was also modest. If some of my tax dollars go to subsidize a family who adopts and loves 4 children who may not otherwise have had a chance, well... good. I can live with that.
My tax dollars subsidize a lot of things I don't use, I get very few tax credits, and I pay in a lot yet overall use few resources. I don't mind someone else picking up my leftovers in that department.
I guess it all sort of evens out,though it's never going to be exact when it comes to things like that. That's what I'll tell myself, simply because I don't mind.
I'm happy to see 4 foster children loved and cared for by truly loving and humanly imperfect people.
That being said, I don't live in Texas, so I mean my hypothetical tax dollars, LOL! I'm sure we have our own Millas in my state, too! :-)
Edited March 14, 2016 by ScorpiosunshinencG1vNJzZmien6fCrr%2BNqamipZWptq6x0WeaqKVfqbyxtcJoanJxZmt6tHyTnmhqZZ2eua2t0maqraeirnw%3D